My lodger says I eat too much and will get fat – is she right?
My lodger says I eat too much and will get fat if I don’t change – but do YOU think my daily diet is unhealthy?
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A woman has sparked outrage online after being body-shamed by her lodger.
Taking to the British parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman shared her story in a post titled: ‘Lodger tells me I eat too much. Do I?’
The poster outlined a few days of her diet, witha typical day including three meals and a snack such as fruit, crisps or Maltesters, as well as teas and coffees.
She wrote: ‘Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.
Commenters were divided with some suggesting the lodger’s comments were down to a cultural difference, while others said she was rude and should mind her own business.
A woman has revealed that her lodger has a tendency to comment on her food intake, and say she eats way too much (stock image)
Explaining the situation the woman said that she normally doesn’t see her lodger during the day but she’s been working frm home this week.
She continued: ‘I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant), and she said “You eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”.
‘Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically three meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?’
Some respondents suggested that the lodger may be from another culture in which commenting on others’ food intake and weight is more acceptable.
One wrote: ‘Is she from another country/culture.? That sort of directness is seen as rude here but in some countries people are more direct. She may see it as being helpful, though it would annoy me too. Perhaps you should say that making personal comments about people’s choices is really rather rude.
‘I don’t know how old you are, what your weight is or how much exercise you do. If you feel fit and healthy it is really up to you to decide what, and how much, you should eat.
According to the post on Mumsnet, a woman’s lodger made unsolicited comments about her food intake
Do YOU think this is too much food to eat in a day?
MONDAY
2 cups of tea and porridge with mixed seeds
Peanut cereal bar & coffee
Cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
Sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts), cherry yoghurt
3 herbal teas
TUESDAY
2 cups of tea and 2 Weetabix
Standard size bag of Maltesers and coffee,
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
Shakshouka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
3 herbal teas
WEDNESDAY
2 cups of tea and 2 Weetabix
Toast with Marmite and coffee,
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Cranberry juice
lentil and fennel stew with rice
Digestive biscuit
3 herbal teas
THURSDAY
2 cups of tea and 2 Weetabix
Toast with Marmite and coffee,
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Cranberry juice
Pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.
‘I would say, though, and speaking from experience, it is very easy to put a little on each year and then suddenly you are overweight – and you then have the uphill climb of breaking snacking habits.’
Another agreed, writing: ‘That sounds really rude of her but made me laugh! No, of course that isn’t too much.
‘Are you medically overweight or do you have any health concerns that would be relevant here?
‘Regardless of this, it’s none of her business. Could this be a cultural thing? I’ve lived overseas and had friends from the Philippines and China who would be extremely brutal about weight and eating…all of them as slim as anything and with a love of food. It was always light-hearted and a chance to have a banter and eat even more.’
Some commentators suggested that the lodger may be from another culture in which discussing food and weight is more acceptable, with one describing it as ‘banter’
And a third asked: ‘Is she from a weight-shaming culture?’
A fourth made a similar comment, writing: ‘Is there cultural differences. I know couple friends not from the UK who are very blunt around food consumption.’
Meanwhile a fifth said: ‘Yeah they’re from a different culture.’
However, the vast majority of respondents were annoyed with the lodger’s comments, and found them extremely rude.
One wrote: ‘Not too much at all. Looks varied and nutritious too.
‘But that’s not the point – even if you were scoffing junk food she has NO right to speak to you like that, especially in your own home?
Many commentators felt the lodger had been horrendously rude, and that the woman’s diet was none of her business
Another added: ‘It none of her business and she was rude. End of.’
And a third said: ‘How much you eat is irrelevant, that’s a really f****** rude thing to say! In your own home as well. If she says something again you should point out how rude she is being and tell her to mind her own business.’
A further Mumsnetter also seemed angry about the lodger’s comments, writing: ‘Your diet is perfectly fine, even if it wasn’t no one has the right to comment on your food intake, shes a judgemental t***, get rid.’
And another added a potential snappy comeback, saying: ‘How rude. I would be saying “and you’re always talking. Talking, talking, talking. You’ll be homeless if you keep talking like that”.’
A significant number of respondents felt the woman should tell her lodger to move out, and instead live with someone who doesn’t overstep the line with personal comments
Many thought the woman should give the lodger notice, with one writing: ‘Wow how rude. Give her notice and get someone decent to live with.’
Another agreed, adding: ‘Cheeky mare. If she’s so offended by what you eat there’s the option of her leaving and moving in with someone whose diet is more to her liking.’
And a third chimed in to say: ‘How much you eat is irrelevant – she is out of order criticising your eating habits, and I’d be giving her notice to leave. She has WAY overstepped the line.’
Meanwhile a fourth said: ‘Get a decent Five Guys delivered tonight. Eat it in front of them and give her notice to go.’
And a fifth added: ‘How much or what you eat isn’t the issue imo, you feel undermined by a comment your lodger made. If you find this is a repeating problem then get a new lodger.’
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