My rich friends are tacky for asking for money as a wedding gift
I think my rich friends are tacky and tasteless for asking for money as a wedding gift – but people say I’m just jealous
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A woman has divided opinion after sharing her annoyance over being asked to contribute money towards the honeymoon as a wedding gift for a wealthy couple.
Posting to the British parenting forum Mumsnet, the disgruntled wedding guest said being asked for cash felt ‘presumptuous and tasteless’, and was particularly irked because the couple earn £150,000 between them.
She added that after 10 years and having children together, it would feel more appropriate if the couple had asked for a charity donation.
Commenters were left divided with some insisting that it’s ‘tacky’ to ask for money as a wedding gift in any circumstances.
However, others took the poster to task for her attitude, claiming she sounds jealous of the couple’s success, and suggested that she doesn’t go to the wedding because she clearly doesn’t like them very much.
An engaged couple has been branded ‘tacky’ and ‘rule for requesting money instead of asking for a charity donation or present at their wedding (stock image)
Explaining her annoyance, the woman wrote that she’d received two wedding invites in a row which requested ‘money towards our honeymoon as a gift’.
‘I personally couldn’t physically write this in an invitation as it just feels presumptuous and tasteless,’ she said.
‘Maybe this last invite got my back up as this couple have been together well over ten years, already have children, earn circa £150,000 between them, massive house and already go on countless holidays at home and abroad.
‘They could have easily omitted such a line from the invite. I understand they don’t want toasters and towels, but surely there’s another way.’
Her suggestion was to write: ‘Your presence at our wedding would be more than enough, but if you’d like to gift us something to mark this day, please give a donation to XYZ charity which is close to our hearts because of XYZ??? Owing to the fact they are bloody rolling in it.’
Some people sided with the original poster and claimed that it’s ‘tacky’ to ask for money as a wedding gift
She added in a later post: ‘Maybe there’s ill feeling as some of us haven’t had a holiday abroad in years and they go multiple times and here I am funding their next one.’
The post quickly blew up with some siding with the original poster and agreeing the sentiment of asking for cash didn’t sit right with them.
‘Hideously tacky and grabby,’ wrote one person
Another agreed, saying: I think it is tacky to include the gift registry or request a type of gift in the invitation. Wait for guests to get in touch and ask what they would like for a gift.’
A third suggested: ‘I’d be tempted to reply: “I regret we cannot accept the wedding invitation or fund your honeymoon as that’s the weekend we’ll be in Blackpool. We’ve been saving up all year”.’
The post sparked a heated debate amongst Mumsnet users with many accusing the OP of being jealous and advising them not to go to the wedding
However, others accused the woman of being jealous of the couple, and saying it’s irrelevant how much they earn or how long they’ve been together.
‘Giving £50 to charity still costs you £50. They dont need to be virtuous all the time. You sound really nasty and jealous of them [sic],’ added one person.
‘Yep, you sound jealous,’ another agreed. ‘So people who are well off aren’t entitled to receive gifts? If you’re that upset, don’t go to wedding and don’t buy a gift.’
‘£150K is hardly rolling in it. Just give them a gift if you can’t bear to contribute what they actually want. You sound jealous,’ penned another Mumsnet user.
Someone else bluntly wrote: ‘Don’t go as you clearly don’t like them.’
And other commenters said that they actually like giving cash as a gift because it’s much easier than chosing something to buy.
One wrote: ‘I hate this too, but you’ll find most guests love it because it takes the pressure off thinking what to buy.’
‘I’m always happy with giving money,’ a fellow commenter agreed. ‘The easiest low effort present ever.
‘Would rather that than having to go and think of something, buy, wrap and still get a card, this way it’s buy a card and bung some cash in.
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