Woman wants to leave fiancé who pays for her degree for another man
An engaged woman who is going to medical school has asked for advice on what to do after falling in love with another man, even though her wedding is in a week.
The bride-to-be, from the UK, said she was getting cold feet about the impending wedding with her boyfriend of four years who is paying for her degree at Harvard University in Boston.
The anonymous poster wrote that they had planned for a lavish destination wedding and she was unsure about going through with it.
Though neither her fiancé nor her parents know about the other guy, they do know about the bride’s cold feet.
But still, they insist that she should go through with the nuptials, especially as the fiancé has ‘spent so much time and effort planning the honeymoon in great detail’.
Her mum has also been pushing her to go through with the marriage, at least until she finishes her degree ‘and then maybe divorce him’.
So, the conflicted bride took to Mumsnet to ask what she should do.
‘My wedding is literally next week and I’ve managed to fall for another guy,’ she wrote.
‘I don’t know what to do. My parents are not letting me cancel. My worries to my fiancé are falling on deaf ears. He said that we have done too much planning to cancel the wedding now.
‘I don’t know if I should get married to my fiancé and forget about the other guy (easiest option) or cancel the wedding and cause massive repercussions. I don’t even know if dating the other guy will work out in the long run.’
The poster explained that she and her partner, ten years older than her, have been through a long-distance relationship for three years and getting married seemed like the way to bridge that.
They also have different senses of humour and come from different countries.
‘We aren’t the perfect match but we get along fairly well. We have had our ups and downs but because we were sick of the long distance we decided to get married a few months ago,’ she said.
She added that she didn’t want to break her partner’s heart as he’s been pulling late nights trying to organise the honeymoon.
The new man that she has realised she has feelings for is someone she met three months ago.
The pair are closer in age and have a natural chemistry, she said.
‘This other guy and I are more compatible. We are similar in age, he makes me laugh, we enjoy each other’s company a lot, and we have a big spark.
‘Other people have mentioned that they can tell we have so much chemistry. We haven’t really made a move since I am engaged.’
At the moment, their plans are to get married next week and then for the bride to move over to the U.S where she starts her degree in July.
She insisted that she plans on paying back all the money she will owe him, but her heart’s not in continuing the relationship.
‘I plan on paying him back the tuition eventually (£200,000) but don’t have that now obviously.
‘My mum doesn’t want me to let go of my place at Harvard. She wants me to marry this guy first, go to Harvard and then maybe divorce him if I’m not happy!’
Everyone on Mumsnet warned her not to go through with the wedding if she didn’t want to, no matter what the reasons are.
We don’t know what the bride-to-be chose to do.
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