My boyfriend has been sexting other women while we lie in bed together | The Sun
DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE signing a new lease to move in together, I found out my boyfriend is a liar and a cheat.
Now, he’s begging for forgiveness but I’m not sure I can trust him.
We’ve been together for six years. I’m 28 and he’s 29.
We were using his laptop to sign documents when a notification popped up from a ‘Cherry Lips’ announcing she had new ‘naughty specials’ for him.
I hit the roof and clicked ‘open’ at the same time. He sat by me stunned into silence while I scrolled through the images of this woman undressing.
I went ballistic while he pulled together a pitiful tale about how it was a mistake.
He’d forgotten to log out of a dating site, so I clicked on his profile and saw all his messages, stretching back months.
Looking through it soon became clear he’d been checking out plenty of other women.
Worse, he’d been sending them naughty pics, and actively trying to meet up.
All the while he’s been telling me how perfect I am, how he wants to be with me forever, and how he’s never fancied anyone so much. All bull****.
He’s even chatted to other women while we’ve been lying in bed together, after sex. How disgusting.
The thing that hurts the most is I’ve seen from some of the messages that he’d tried to hook up with some of them, but they’d said no. I feel so disrespected.
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Eventually, he admitted he’d made a mistake and said he didn’t know why he’d strayed.
The only lame excuse he could come up with was that he was bored.
He’ll lose his deposit if we don’t move in next week but I don’t know if I can be with him anymore.
DEIDRE SAYS: People cheat for many reasons, but it seems he wanted to have his cake and eat it too.
If he wasn’t happy with your relationship or his life, he should have talked about it.
Instead, he’s made you believe you had a future, while keeping his options open.
Don’t worry about his deposit. If he loses it, that is 100% his responsibility.
Talk to him. You can salvage things if you both want but he has to be prepared to put the effort in.
My support pack, Cheating, Can You Get Over It? should help you to think things through.
This is all very raw, so perhaps you need a break from him while you think. You deserve better.
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