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Our house is like a bombsite unless I do all the cleaning and tidying

DEAR DEIDRE: OUR house is like a bombsite unless I do all the cleaning and tidying.

My partner lives like a student and spends all his time on social media.

We are both 30 and our sons are four and two.

They are bad enough but their dad leaves a trail of mess, from dirty kitchen worktops to out-of-date food in the fridge.

He tells me to embrace the mess but I want a clean, safe home for the children.

I am no clean-freak but this is becoming a dealbreaker.

Sometimes he says he’s disappointed in himself and I wonder if he’s depressed.

He is a good dad and a caring partner. Are my expectations too high?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner sounds loving but disorganised. Don’t wait for him to change.

Instead, draw up a list of everything that needs doing.

Either he pulls his weight or he must do a larger proportion of the childcare.

If indeed he is depressed, he should speak to Calm (thecalm zone.net, 0800 58 58 58).