I kicked my best friend out of my bridal party, she says she has no money and needs to work – but it's my special day

WEDDINGS can be complicated, and filled with tough decisions. 

And one angry mum-to-be took to social media in a post to discuss her hurt, after her best friend ditched her from the bridal party. 

In the Reddit thread, she wanted to ask for people's opinions. 

She explained that she put all her effort into helping out as Maid of Honour – from dress shopping, to party planning, and even helping the other bridesmaids.

But she then went on to explain that the bride-to-be uninvited her.

She wrote: “I travel for work, and I turned down multiple jobs so I would be close for her wedding and events or if she were to need my help planning these last few months.

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“This has resulted in me being out of work for the last three months because she was upset I was going to be out of state (there have been no jobs close enough to home that made sense, as I’d have to drive back home multiple times during my assignment) (but I finally found a job – hooray!). 

“I literally rearranged my career just to be close by to help her.

“It was a shock to me to receive a very lengthy text this week telling me she was going to have someone else take over as Maid of Honour and she was demoting me to a bridesmaid because I told her I may not be able to attend the bridal shower due to work (I could only submit a request for the weekend of her wedding off).

“I said I would attend rehearsal but maybe not rehearsal dinner because I was under the impression I had to pay for dinner myself and it was at a very expensive restaurant, and because I cannot currently afford to get my nails done the day before the wedding, and I told her I likely won’t be attending that event either.

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“Finances are tight with a new house, personal wedding planning, and a baby on the way.

“She also feels I haven’t communicated with her enough, even though I check in at least once a month asking if she needs me.

"I always end these convos with telling her she should reach out if something comes up.

“Also, apparently my texts don’t come off as being ‘excited for her’ which makes her mad.”

Many people rushed to the comments section to share their thoughts. 

One wrote: “Tell her you'll make her life a lot easier and bow out from attending full stop.

She also feels I haven’t communicated with her enough, even though I check in at least once a month asking if she needs me

"Spend her 'big day' in comfy clothes with a remote control in one hand and a bar of chocolate in the other.”

Another angry person said: “Please stop everything you’re doing for this ungrateful woman and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

"Let her know you’ll be stepping down and would like to just attend as a guest. 

“It’s unfortunate that this might really put a serious wedge in your friendship but that’s her selfish choice not yours. 

“She just wants someone to kiss her a** at all times, just sickening!”

The ex Maid of Honour then added another post saying she'd sent a text outlining how her friend had made her feel and eight hours later, she had received no reply.

An angry person replied: “I don't see a friend, I only see a bridezilla that has lost all connection to reality. I'd say good riddance to that ‘friend.’”

Then she updated the social media users again, waiting to see if the friend apologised. 

The update said: “Thank you all so much for the kind comments and support! I felt validated in my decision to ultimately step down from the wedding overall. It was good to hear from others that I wasn’t overreacting and being hormonal.

“I sent a long text to my friend two days after my original post.

"The text was outlining everything I’ve done for her & why I felt disrespected in her decision to demote me from MOH so close to the wedding date.

“I also was sure to tell her I’ve lost a lot financially in trying to be a good friend and stay close for her wedding and events like she had wanted.

Essentially, she felt I was more concerned with my own life currently (pregnancy & finding a job) than I was with her wedding

"I ended the message telling her I still want her to enjoy her day and I don’t want it to be full of any drama or bitterness, so I felt it best that I step down from it all. It took her two full days to respond.

“We went back and forth quite a bit with her telling me the additional reasons for demoting me were I hadn’t been texting her enough and asking her about her personal life / I wasn’t ‘excited enough’ in my messages about the wedding, etc.

“Essentially, she felt I was more concerned with my own life currently (pregnancy & finding a job) than I was with her wedding.

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“There were a lot of ‘pity me’ messages from her & after reiterating that I no longer wanted to be in the wedding at all, I stopped replying. I haven’t heard from her in over three weeks. 

“I’ve returned my bridesmaid dress & I feel so at peace with my decision. I don’t think I’ll be attending the wedding at all.”

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