Dominic Matteo's wife says his brain tumour has made marriage stronger

Former Liverpool and Leeds defender Dominic Matteo is still learning to read and write again after a life-threatening brain tumour, his wife reveals as she tells how their marriage is ‘stronger than ever’ and he’s more open with his emotions

  • EXCLUSIVE: Jessica Matteo, 40, opens up about her husband’s brain tumour
  • Ex-Liverpool and Leeds defender Dominic Matteo was left ‘fighting for his life’  
  • They say they now know ‘what’s really important in life’ and are closer than ever 

The wife of ex-Liverpool and Leeds defender Dominic Matteo has revealed how their marriage is ‘even closer’ after a brain tumour left him ‘fighting for his life’.

Jessica Matteo, 40, has opened up about her husband’s ongoing recovery after being diagnosed with a rare, cancerous ependymoma brain tumour in 2019, revealing that he’s still re-learning to read and write, and struggles with their eight-year-old son’s homework spellings. 

Speaking to raise awareness about the disease to mark Brain Tumour Awareness Month in March, Jessica said: ‘I feel blessed that we still have Dom with us and that he’s still the person I fell in love with.’

‘We’ve always been close and a good team, but Dom’s diagnosis has brought us even closer together,’ Jessica, who has been with her husband, 47, for 20 years and married since 2018, added.

However, she admits that she still cries when she thinks back to the footballer’s ‘massive seizure’ when his tumour was first discovered – and being told by doctors that Dominic would die unless they operated immediately due to immense pressure on his brain.

The wife of ex-Liverpool and Leeds defender Dominic Matteo (pictured together) has revealed how their marriage is ‘even closer’ after a brain tumour left him ‘fighting for his life’

Dominic Matteo playing for Liverpool in a match against Watford at Anfield in August 1999

Jessica Matteo (pictured left, on her wedding day), 40, has opened up about her husband’s battle with a rare, cancerous ependymoma brain tumour in 2019, which has left him largely unable to read, write or drive

Speaking to raise awareness about the disease in light of March being Brain Tumour Awareness Month, Dominic’s partner said: ‘I feel blessed that we still have Dom with us and that he’s still the person I fell in love with.’ Pictured, Dominic following surgery

Matteo made his senior Liverpool debut in October 1993 and made 155 appearances in seven years before joining Leeds in 2000.

He was a regular at Elland Road, playing 146 times in four years. He helped David O’Leary’s side into the Champions League semi-finals in 2001, scoring a famous goal against AC Milan in the San Siro on the way. 

But he was part of the side that was relegated in 2004 before moving on to Blackburn and then Stoke before hanging up his boots in 2009.

Dumfries-born Matteo he was capped six times by Scotland despite having earned Under 21 caps for England.

Dominic (pictured scoring for Leeds against AC Milan in 2000) made his senior Liverpool debut in October 1993 and made 155 appearances in seven years before joining Leeds in 2000

He’s been open about his struggles with gambling in the past, admitting to being hooked on betting on horses during his time at Blackburn and blowing £1 million. 

But after quitting football, he settled into a new career as a pundit, working for Liverpool’s in-house TV channel.

His nightmare started when he came off air complaining of a persistent headache, after analysing the 3-1 blitzing of Manchester City.

Now, two-and-a-half years on from the 10 hours’ brain surgery that saved Dominic’s life, Jessica said she ‘counts our blessings every day’ and considers the devoted couple as among ‘the lucky ones and closer than ever.’

However, the date Monday, November 11, 2019, will be seared in Jessica’s heart for ever after discovering Dominic’s diagnosis.

‘We’ve always been close and a good team, but Dom’s diagnosis has brought us even closer together,’ Jessica, who has been with her husband (pictured together), 47, for 20 years and married since 2018, added

‘Dom had gone into hospital for a CT scan as he’d been suffering headaches and our GP had referred him, saying “You’ve never come to me for anything in seven years, let’s get them checked out”,’ recalled Jessica.

‘At the time, our son, Luca, had a virus so we put Dom’s headaches down to having it, too, but thought it was best to be on the safe side.

‘The day before he’d worked for LFC TV and came off air saying his head was “throbbing” and he never complains about anything.’

Jessica was teaching a ballet class when Dom rang her after his scan at Calderdale Hospital, near Huddersfield, to tell her that doctors thought they’d found a tumour on his brain. 

Dom was bluelighted to Leeds General Infirmary and Jessica drove to meet him there.

However, she admitted that recalling the footballer’s (pictured left) ‘massive seizure’ when his tumour was first discovered – which lead doctors to explain that Dominic would die unless they operated immediately due to immense pressure on his brain – still ‘makes me cry when I think about it now’

‘I just couldn’t take it in and went on automatic pilot to get to the hospital and took Dom’s elderly parents with me,’ said Jessica. ‘When we got to the hospital Dom was in a wheelchair and couldn’t see. 

‘He was pumped full of steroids to reduce the swelling on his brain. All that had happened within 48 hours. t was agreed he’d have an operation in two days. We said goodbye to Dom in his room and I drove his mum and dad home.’

As Jessica pulled up on her driveway, the hospital rang to say Dom had had a massive seizure.

‘They said they were doing everything they could and that I needed to be there,’ she said. ‘I turned straight back round and drove the half-hour back to Leeds, sick with fear as I had no idea what was waiting for me.

‘I didn’t know if Dom would still be alive or, if he was, what state he’d be in. It still makes me cry when I think about it now.’

At the hospital, Jessica ran inside to find that Dom was still unconscious, and doctors were battling to bring him round. They said Dom would die unless they operated immediately due to immense pressure on his brain.

But two-and-a-half years on from the 10 hours’ brain surgery that saved Dominic’s (pictured with his son) life, Jessica said she ‘counts our blessings every day’ and considers the devoted couple as among ‘the lucky ones and closer than ever.’

However, the date Monday, November 11, 2019, will be seared in Jessica’s (pictured right) heart for ever after discovering Dominic’s diagnosis

‘Dom’s surgeon Ryan Mathew took him down to theatre at 5.15pm and told me to go home to try to get some sleep,’ she said. ‘But I didn’t sleep a wink. I perched on the edge of my bed waiting for the phone call, which finally came at 3am, after Dom had been in theatre for almost 10 hours. 

WHAT ARE EPENDYMOMAS? 

Ependymomas is a type of brain tumour made up of cancer cells and tissue found in the brain called ependymal cells.

These cells are found lining the fluid–filled spaces in and around the brain and their job is to produce spinal fluid.

The tumours grow rapidly and are relatively rare. There are approximately 200 cases diagnosed in the US each year and less than 50 in Britain.

At least a quarter of diagnoses happen before the age of two.

‘It seemed like an eternity, but it was the best phone call of my life. Ryan said he’d removed 90-95 per cent of Dom’s tumour and that he was doing really well.

‘He said he was sorry that he may have lost the sight in Dom’s right eye. But I was overwhelmed with relief and gratitude that he was OK.’

Dom had been due to fly to Singapore for work a few days later and, after his GP’s referral, his scan had been booked for three weeks after he got back.

‘But he was offered an earlier appointment when there was a cancellation, which saved his life,’ said Jessica. ‘Dom could have had a seizure while he was on the flight and we would have lost him.’

Dr Mathew told Jessica to come in the next day as Dom was sleeping.

‘I was expecting him to still be out of it covered in tubes and on a ventilator, but he was sitting up in bed with no tubes, just a drain from his skull,’ said Jessica.

‘As I walked through the door, he said “Hello kidda!”. I just couldn’t believe it. I was so grateful that he knew who I was and he was still my Dom.’

Dom was in hospital for three weeks and biopsy and test results revealed he had a large, very rare grade 3 (cancerous) brain tumour, a RELA fusion ependymoma, which is usually diagnosed in children.

‘Doctors said that it had probably been growing for decades since Dom was a child,’ said Jessica. ‘He didn’t lose sight in his right eye as first feared, although he has lost some peripheral vision, a small price to pay for saving his life.’

Dom underwent six weeks of radiotherapy at St James’ University Hospital in Leeds. He rang the bell to mark the end of treatment in February 2020 and then faced an agonising wait of 11 weeks for a scan to show his tumour was stable as appointments were cancelled due to Covid. 

‘Dom (pictured) had gone into hospital for a CT scan as he’d been suffering headaches and our GP had referred him, saying “You’ve never come to me for anything in seven years, let’s get them checked out,” said Jessica.


Jessica and Dominic (pictured in hospital), who is an ambassador for The Brain Tumour Charity, are sharing their story to also highlight the organisation’s free relationship counselling service in partnership with Relate for those living with the devastating impact of a brain tumour diagnosis

Dom underwent months of tough rehabilitation with ‘brilliant support’ from their occupational and speech and language therapists.

‘People don’t realise what a long haul recovery is after a brain tumour diagnosis and treatment and how many long-term effects you have,’ said Jessica. ‘At first, Dom was frustrated and impatient that he couldn’t just jump on the treadmill and get back to normal.  

‘But he couldn’t even squeeze toothpaste on to a toothbrush and he’s still relearning how to read and write – Luca’s homework spellings are too difficult for him.

Jessica Matteo reveals the five life lessons that have made her marriage stronger 

After being together for 20 years and married since 2018, Jessica and Dominic’s ordeal has taught them valuable life lessons which have brought them even closer. 

Here Jessica reveals the five top lessons… 

Lesson one: Embrace closeness

We’ve always been close and a good team, but Dom’s diagnosis has brought us even closer together.

Since his diagnosis, Dom has become much calmer and is more in touch with his emotions and is more open with me about his feelings. He worked with a life coach for a year, which really helped him.

Post-diagnosis life is so different to our life before. We were always rushing about, juggling everything. Now we make more time for each other as a couple – although we love our family time – we took Luca, eight, on honeymoon with us!

Lesson two: Don’t sweat the small stuff

When someone nearly dies, you do a life audit. Now our priorities are more crystal clear than ever – our family and being healthy and happy.

Twice a week – every Thursday and Sunday – we have a family meal at our favourite restaurant. On Thursdays, it’s us with Luca and on Sundays, Dom’s daughters from his first marriage, Luisa, 16, and Elin, 12, join us.

Things I used to worry about before – like what people think about me, just doesn’t matter anymore – we don’t sweat the small stuff as we realise what’s really important in life.

Lesson three: Take turns to be the strong one

Dom calls me his ‘rock’ but he’s there for me. He now has scans every four months and we suffer terrible scanxiety as the waiting is so stressful.

You feel OK for a month, then you have the build-up to the scan and waiting for the results. One of you will feel off-kilter and be lifted by the other, taking it in turns to be strong for each other.

Lesson four: Don’t take each other for granted

I’ll never forget my dread and fear I was going to lose Dom during that drive to hospital after he had his seizure. We all take each other for granted until you go through a trauma and know how easily someone can be snatched away from you.

I feel blessed that I’ve still got Dom with me as it so easily could have been a different ending, and we don’t take each other for granted anymore.

Lesson five: Use your experience to help others

We are both passionate about wanting to help raise awareness. Before Dom was diagnosed with a brain tumour, I knew absolutely nothing about them and I was shocked when I found out they were the biggest cancer killer of children and young adults in the UK.

I’m blessed Dom’s personality didn’t change and he’s still the man I knew. The Brain Tumour Charity is doing such an important job offering people counselling to adapt to such a painful time in their life.

We count ourselves among the lucky ones and we want to help other people who aren’t so lucky.

‘His writing is better but he can’t read it back – it’s fascinating how the brain works. I’m not a very patient teacher at times and when my old headmaster got in touch after Dom’s diagnosis asking what he could do, I asked him to help Dom with his reading.

‘He’s an avid Leeds United fan so his payment is hearing Dom’s tales of his playing days!’

Dom also has short-term memory problems, and it was a huge loss of independence for him not being able to drive but he has regained some now they’ve moved house near Halifax. 

Dom has also been fundraising for The Brain Tumour Charity and had an emotional reunion with former Leeds United team mate Mark Viduka for a Q & A session at the club’s Elland Road pavilion on March 11. 

Jessica and Dominic, who is an ambassador for The Brain Tumour Charity, are sharing their story to also highlight the organisation’s free relationship counselling service in partnership with Relate for those living with the devastating impact of a brain tumour diagnosis. 

‘Others aren’t so fortunate [as us] as people can have a personality change after diagnosis and The Brain Tumour Charity’s relationship counselling service is an absolutely vital and wonderful resource,’ said Jessica.

‘When your partner has a brain tumour, no one gives you a handbook about how to deal with it and the possible impact on your relationship. 

‘We count ourselves among the lucky ones and we’re sharing our story as we want to help others who haven’t been so lucky.’ 

Dom said: ‘Since my diagnosis, I have had amazing support from family and friends, especially Jess. She is my rock and has been at my side since day one.

‘Our lives were turned upside down overnight. One day, I was on TV, the next I was fighting for my life. I feel blessed to still be here.

‘The hardest time for me and Jessica is around scan time. I think sometimes she needs to take herself off from me and vice versa, but we always support each other.

‘I think I have more routine and focus in my life now and it means everything to me to use my position to help The Brain Tumour Charity raise awareness, and I’ve also set up the Ahead Of The Game Foundation with former world light weight kickboxing champion, Dave Bolton, who is also living with a brain tumour.

‘Not a day goes by that someone doesn’t ask me for help when they’ve been affected by a brain tumour or message me through social media and I think helping others if you can is what it’s all about.

‘Now I don’t take anything for granted and I’m so grateful for my family. A close brush with death makes you realise how precious life is.’

Eve Kelleher, Head of Services at The Brain Tumour Charity, which funds world-class research and provides specialist support services, said: ‘Our warmest wishes go to Jessica and Dom as they continue to navigate the emotional impacts a brain tumour diagnosis and long-term side effects can have on a partner and their loved ones, as well as the person living with a brain tumour.

‘We are incredibly grateful they are sharing their story in Brain Tumour Awareness Month to help us raise awareness of the disease – the biggest cancer killer of children and adults under 40 in the UK – and to highlight our free relationship counselling service.

‘While Jessica and Dom have found his diagnosis has brought them even closer together, we know that a brain tumour diagnosis can put a huge emotional strain on relationships. 

‘Our Losing Myself report revealed that two in three people felt their diagnosis had a negative impact on their relationship with their partner, and 72% said it had affected their physical intimacy.

‘That’s why we run a free counselling service in partnership with Relate for couples and individuals, whose relationship may have been put under pressure by a brain tumour diagnosis.

‘Since March 2020, we have seen an overall 30 % increase in people seeking our support and we are continuing to see growth in our support enquiries each month.

‘Anyone affected by a brain tumour can call our free Support and Information Line on 0808 800 0004 or email [email protected] We are here to listen, support and help with the latest information.’

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