My boyfriend told me my vagina was ugly during sex – but now Im embracing it
A sexologist revealed how an ex-partner told them they had "ugly" genitalia.
Gem Campbell, who uses they/them pronouns, was 13 when they noticed their labia protruded.
The discovery left the 27-year-old wondering why their vagina looked different to the ones they'd previously seen through porn.
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But Gem only became self-conscious about having an "outie" at 18 after a boyfriend said their vagina was "ugly".
Speaking to SEEN TV, the dietitian, from Australia, said: "These negative comments definitely affected my sex life.
"When I would sleep with a new person, I would always have this thing that I would do to prevent them seeing my labia in full light.
"I would typically only have sex in like very low lighting or like lights off, so it was very difficult to be present in the moment."
Gem said they would hide their body during intimate moments for years, stating it was "difficult to feel sexy".
They added: "I did feel quite embarrassed about my body when I was having sex a lot of the time."
Then Gem's mental health reached a "dark" place which saw them develop a "recurring intrusive thought" about "cutting" their vagina.
It was only when they decided to launch an adults-subscription account in 2020 their relationship with their vagina became positive.
They began doing solo videos with close-ups filmed looking directly at their vulva.
But Gem's fanbase grew as they began to receive messages from followers who loved their "long labia".
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They continued: "They would be very specific and say that. And I was like 'what?'
"I've never had anyone say that to me before. Telling me that was really nice."
Alongside this, Gem was also seeing a therapist and studying sexology which led them to sex positive accounts that "helped".
Now Gem wants to help others with vulva issues by sharing their story and hosting intimate workshops to educate.
They concluded: "If anyone comes into your life, who is making fun of your body, you say, 'bye, b*tch, I don't want you in my life anymore'.
"That's not okay."
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